Saturday, November 13, 2010
Hardly a wallflower...
Maybe there is something I am missing about myself...something I am not yet aware of...but I truly and honestly do not feel or believe that I am someone who seeks out attention. Certainly not on a conscious level. Although I have been accused of such behaviour 2x in the past 6 months...and of course, it got me thinking. Am I that girl!?! Jesus, I hope not.
While I am hardly a wallflower, I didn't seek attention before I lost weight, and I don't do it now.
I am authentically me. And who I am (I should specify - when I am not at work) is someone flirty, quirky, fun, full of life and energy, who laughs at all the wrong moments louder than anyone else, who could make friends with a tree stump.
And I am also someone who shies away from attention.
I blush at the "you're pretty" comments, and I am not at all comfortable when people stare too long, or look too closely. I am embarrassed and fidgety with obvious attention from men, and I don't feel the need to be in the spotlight.
Correct me if I'm wrong here, but I think that if you have positive energy, if you smile at people, mind your P's and Q's as my Grandmother would say, and if you exude happiness...then people will want to be near you.
Positive breeds positive. It's not rocket science.
None of these things mean that you are consciously looking for the attention you may happen to receive, but yes, there is absolutely a payoff to being the type of person who others feel drawn to.
The payoff? People like you.
Nobody wants to be around the girl who is constantly moaning on about negative things, interrupting to get her cheap 2 cents in, or who demands to be the centre of attention all the time. Nobody likes the guy who is a know-it-all smart-ass, a right-fighter, or an antagonistic jerk. If you are that person? Don't you kind of deserve to have someone tell you so? And don't you also kind of deserve to have just a few friends? with the patience of a saint, might I add?
My advice? Smile, say 'hello', 'thank you' and 'please'. People like that. And make sure that you enjoy all the positive energy that comes your way from doing it, too. I know I will.
I know who I am...and who I work hard to be. Hardly a wallflower, but not exactly Snookie, either.
I hope that you are having an awesome day!