I used to place my self worth and confidence
How good I felt about myself largely relied not just on my weight, but also on how much attention I was getting, whether or not I was included in events, invited to parties, kept in the gossip loop, confided in by friends, and asked out for 2nd dates.
Now?! I absolutely do not base my self worth on any of those things, nor any of these:
Whether or not someone returns my call, befriends me on Facebook, ditches me on Facebook, says goodbye when leaving an event, says hello first, invites me along, tells me their big news first, gives me a gift, forgets my birthday, accepts my invitation to hang out, or wants to be my friend.
These things don't hurt my feelings, get me down, or cause me to feel badly about myself and my worth anymore. They also don't result in drama, wasted energy, or self doubt. It simply isn't worth my time or emotional well being to dwell on such things.
I have learned that if these random moments are anything more than a slight blip on your radar, that is a sign that your attention should be focused inward. Find your own happiness, have faith in your worth, and you won't give a shit if any of the above ever happen again.
Have an awesome day!